tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-87574710589257534182024-02-19T08:27:17.966-08:00On Becoming EzzowiseSiemprePensandohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07865067225386212592noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8757471058925753418.post-52413612348170176802013-11-11T16:29:00.001-08:002013-11-11T16:29:18.974-08:00Ezzo's Circus<div class="MsoNormal" style="line-height: normal; margin-bottom: .0001pt; margin-bottom: 0in;">
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approach. As a result, Marisa will never have to wait for anything. If she
wants something, it is given to her on demand. Baby-sitters?<span style="mso-spacerun: yes;"> </span>They make Marisa uneasy. So an evening
out alone together simply is not an option. Either her parents will take her
everywhere they go, or they will miss a function due to Marisa’s inability to
take part. As for eating, if Marisa suddenly rejects her bananas, she’ll be
offered a variety of options until her particular preference is revealed. Then
mom will stock the shelves full of Marisa’s delight, only to learn days later
that the child’s pleasure is back to bananas. Welcome to the circus."</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-CA"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">- responding to your child</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-CA"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">- being sensitive to your child's sense of stranger anxiety</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-CA"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">- choosing to not put your child into a state of fear or anxiety in order to please/entertain yourself and your spouse</span></span></div>
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<span lang="EN-CA"><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b>Responding to your child...</b>is proven to be absolutely necessary for healthy development. It is </span></span><span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;">what teaches the child cause and effect. It is what allows the child to develop a sense of right and wrong. Ezzo shows here that he is ignorant of healthy child development.</span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif; font-size: large;"><b>Ezzo believes that mom and dad should have fun and not, "always consider others are more important than yourselves." </b>He believes the parents should consider themselves more important than the child and to put the child first would be, "Child-centric" and bad. Ezzo believes that it doesn't matter if the child experiences fear or anxiety (discomfort) when the parents are absent because what matters is that mom and dad have fun together WITHOUT the child.</span></div>
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<b><span style="font-family: Georgia, Times New Roman, serif;">Do nothing from selfishness or empty conceit, but with humility of mind regard one another as more important than yourselves;</span></b></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b>A circus is where you go to see humans do "impossibly amazing things." </b>A circus is where you go to see amazing and even mind boggling displays of strength, endurance, skill, and wonder. </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b>Could it be that perhaps, Ezzo is right? </b>Could it be that...for parents to give up their own lives...to give up themselves and follow Christ's example...for parents to put their child's needs and life before their own...and respond to their child in every way at any time of the day or not no matter the inconvenience...is a spiritual circus (aka place of amazingness and wonder?)? </span></div>
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<span style="font-family: Arial, Helvetica, sans-serif;"><b>Could it be that the home that Ezzo scorns is actually a home where people would "want to come to see from miles around"...</b>and could enter and see "amazing and mind boggling displays of spiritual strength, endurance, skill, and wonder"? A home where the parents can work together with such precision as to do "death-defying acts" with ease...and even "tame lions"? Could be...</span></div>
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<span style="color: #000090; font-size: large;">"The goal of parenting is not simply to avoid excessive anxiety, but to create a world of confidence by what we do with each other as much as by what we avoid doing." pg. 21<br />
<span style="color: black;">Not responding to a child's expressed needs would fall into the category of "avoiding doing" but how does this effect humans? In "The Neurobiology of Human Relationships" by Louis Cozolino he explains that "Borderline Personality Disorder" can be caused by attachment trauma. The author states that, "Attachment trauma can result from physical and/or sexual abuse, neglect, or profound misattunement between parent and child."</span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #000090;"><span style="color: black; font-size: large;">Science has shown that what happens to your children during their first 3 years of life is permanently expressed in their physical brain and sets the groundwork for the rest of their lives. The way mom and dad interact with baby will teach the baby in a "set in their neuropathways" kind of way what to expect from all future relationships. As you read Ezzo's book you have to ask yourself how his advice would shape your baby's outlook and expectations on all of their future relationships. </span></span></div>
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<span style="color: #000090; font-size: large;">"Every day, Chelsea observes her mom and dad relating to one another. Confirmation of their love relationship is witnessed daily…" pg. 22</span></div>
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<span style="color: #000090; font-size: large;">"For Chelsea to be satisfied beyond her own understanding, she needs simply to watch her parents enjoying each other's company." pg. 22</span><br />
<span style="color: #000090;"><span style="color: black; font-size: large;">What is kind of sad about this is that Ezzo believes that one can learn how to have relationships by watching others? </span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #000090; font-size: large;"><span style="color: black;">We don't learn how to have relationships by watching TV or watching our parents but by being related to and relating to others. This is sad. One cannot learn how to relate to others by "watching" from afar and being excluded.</span> </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Ezzo's idea of "Child-centered parenting" seems to be his idea and his alone. A phrase or description of parenting which is not founded in current science but is something that he has created to describe all parenting that is not according to his way of parenting. It is Ezzo’s way or it is “child-centered” and bad. This is consistent with his parenting style which is the same way: the parent’s way is the only right way. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">If you look into the different parenting styles that have been identified by professionals who are trained (as Ezzo is not) you will find four basic ones: authoritative, authoritarian, indulgent, and neglectful. </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">If Ezzo believes that his way is “God’s way” and that the other option is “child-centered” one would have to ask Ezzo what style of parenting he would believe that his “infant management system” would be? The following quote from Ezzo would seem to indicate that he believes that “responsiveness” to the child is a bad thing and will result in a “me-centered” adult. Yet, Ezzo goes on to tell about poor (made-up) Marisa who is in this awful environment...</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Pg. 23 describes this terrible situation: <span style="color: #0b5394;">"Marisa's parents have adopted the child-centered approach. As a result, Marisa will never have to wait for anything. If she wants something, it is given to her on demand. Baby-sitters? They make Marisa uneasy. So an evening out alone together simply is not an option. Either her parents will take her everywhere they go, or they will miss a function due to Marisa's inability to take part. As for eating, if Marisa suddenly rejects her bananas, she'll be offered a variety of options until her particular preference is revealed." </span></span><br />
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<span style="color: blue; font-size: large;"> <span style="color: black;">All of that is so revealing about Ezzo himself and is disturbingly sad. Ezzo believes that Marisa will end up being a "selfish, emotionally crippled egomaniac" because her parents take her feelings into consideration as they make choices about Marisa's life. Honestly, I should be able to stop writing right here, and anyone who has ever picked up Ezzo's book should stop right there and throw the book away knowing that the author is in now way in touch with reality!</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: blue;"><span style="color: black;"> Here, we see that Ezzo does not understand "separation anxiety" or the damage it can do AND we see where on the scale he places the value of the family unit: "</span></span><span style="color: #0b5394;">Baby-sitters? They make Marisa uneasy. So an evening out alone together simply is not an option. Either her parents will take her everywhere they go, or they will miss a function due to Marisa's inability to take part."</span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #0b5394;"><span style="color: black; font-size: large;">He does not address or understand the science of "attachment" and the reason Marisa might feel this way. He believes that Marisa's disturbance is not even worthy of scientific investigation or consideration and uses the word "uneasy" to suggest that Marisa's feelings are not credible.</span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #0b5394;"><span style="color: black; font-size: large;">He makes it sound like a burden that the poor parents can't have any fun BECAUSE they have to take Marisa with them everywhere they go!</span></span><br />
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<span style="color: #0b5394;"><span style="color: black; font-size: large;">He makes it clear that these "functions" outside the home are more important than the family unit because these parents will suffer if they have to miss something they can't take their baby to.</span></span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><span style="color: #0b5394;"><span style="color: black;">Ezzo titles this chapter, "Your Baby Needs a Family" but is very clearly missing the point of, the joy of, and the happiness that is found in the "family unit". </span> </span><span style="color: blue;"></span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Ezzo talks about Marisa who Ezzo says is fictitious or made-up in his mind. <i>Perhaps Ezzo must use fictitious examples because he doesn’t have real examples from real life and real experience? One will note an absence of any children or grandchildren on his own personal website. A man who wrote this popular book on how to raise a happy family should certainly be a model of that, but, is actually a very lonely old man.</i> </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">I have witnessed it in my family of eight children, that the children treat each other the way I treat them. They are little reflectors, which is their God-given design. Just as we are to reflect our Heavenly Father, the children will reflect how we treat them.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Tori is my 2-year old who would be by Ezzo’s definition a child who lives in a “child-centered” world. Last night she hurt her older sister, Elisa, by accident and her sister started to cry. Tori watched her and when she realized she’d hurt Elisa her face slowly contorted and we watched as her little heart broke and she started to weep. After she cried for a little she got up and stood before Elisa and looked expectantly into her eyes with tears streaming down her face. I asked, “Do you need Elisa to forgive you?” and she shook her head, “yes”. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Ezzo says, <span style="color: #000090;">“</span><span style="color: #000090;">Every day, Marisa's understanding of her place in life is shaped by the feedback she gets from those around her.” </span>And, here he speaks the truth though he comes to the wrong conclusion. When a child is listened to, they will listen to others. When a child is responded to according to what they express, they will learn to respond to others according to what others express. So, Ezzo’s next statement on page 24, <span style="color: #000090;">“Other people simply will not matter to Marisa”</span> is not logical, factual, Biblical, or supported by science in any way.</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Abandonment in childhood or adolescence</span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Ezzo then speaks of another fictitious (made up in his mind) child on pg. 24 who <span style="color: #000090;">“Everyone comments on her peace and joy.”</span> Because Chelsea has learned the concept of <i><span style="color: #000090;">“we-ism”.</span></i> But, how factual is this fictitious story? Could Ezzo have confused “lifelessness” for “peace”? </span><br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">The child in this story was fed bananas in the form of cold banana soup on a weekly basis. The child hated it. Hated it so much that once this boy became a man it became a "joke" known to all of his friends that he would not even touch a banana. But, when he was a boy, he was not permitted to express displeasure over the banana soup. It was known to his mother that he hated it, but, he had to eat it every week regardless and was not permitted to protest without a penalty. So, this little boy would sit quietly and eat that soup every time it was put before him. Ezzo would hail this as a sign that parenting is going well! He would see this boy silently eating soup he hated as "peace" and would claim that unlike Marisa who will grow up "emotionally crippled" this boy will grow into a selfless and emotionally happy individual! </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">But, the silence while eating the soup knowing that any protest will result in a spanking...the silence in that child was not peace. It was anything but peace! It was repression. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">This boy learned that when he didn't like something it was painful and unwelcome to express that...and so now that he is a man he still struggles to know himself and to express himself, struggles to identify and express needs, and as a result struggles daily to relate to his wife with whom he has constant miscommunication and stress.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">I am confident that had his mother said to him, "What? You're saying you dislike this soup? Well, let's work on a solution to this. What can you eat instead on the days I make this?" and either made him something different or gave him the opportunity to make himself something different on those days...I am confident that that would have instilled qualities in that boy that would have resulted in a MUCH healthier and confident man. It would not have turned him into some egomaniac who had no regard to others' feelings, but, would have taught him that sometimes the things we do need to be modified if it affects another negatively...and it would have taught him that when there is something wrong in his world how to seek out healthy ways to change his world. It would have taught him that he and his feelings can make a difference. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Ezzo says on pg. 25, <span style="color: #000090;">“Back at Marisa’s home, her mom and dad continue to strive for buddy status. They yearn for friendship, elevating Marisa to the level of peer.”</span> But what is he talking about? Which parenting style is this that he’s referring to? Or, does Ezzo feel that “responsiveness to the child” is the big no-no? Does he feel parents who are responsive to the child are “striving for buddy status”? </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><b>Ezzo clearly views this as “distasteful” and would have to say it is not how to “Grow Kids God’s Way” but…was not Abraham called a “friend of God”?</b> And, isn’t that an honor we’d all love to achieve with God? Do we not pray because we expect God to “respond” to us? And, doesn’t He respond to us? </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">I can tell you from personal experience that my most recent child who has been raised completely contrary to anything Ezzo would say is good will sometimes look at me and spontaneously say, “I love you, Mommy! You are my best friend!” The honor that that is is indescribable.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Ezzo says, <span style="color: blue;">“Chelsea’s parents understand this, knowing that friendship with their daughter is a gift that only time can give. In the meantime, they must represent her best interests. They set the pace in Chelsea’s life and insist on her compliance. Chelsea, in turn, acquires the sense that she belongs to something bigger than herself. She belongs to a family with predetermined guidelines and firmly established order. This realization for Chelsea gives family relationships meaning and purpose. By the end of Chelsea’s teen years, a beautiful friendship with her parents will begin to blossom. Indeed this should be every parent’s goal.”</span></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><b>Ezzo believes that only “time” can give Chelsea’s parents the gift of friendship with their daughter. But, when one looks into Ezzo’s biography, his own children became estranged from him once they were grown. They did not grow up to become his friend.</b> (ezzo.info) </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Ezzo says on pg. 26<span style="color: #000090;">, “Since infants are entirely dependent on parental care, their dependency creates for new parents a heightened gratification. What you need is a strategy for avoiding child-centered pitfalls.”</span> </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><b>Attachment theory</b> describes the dynamics of long-term <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Interpersonal_relationship">relationships between humans</a> especially as in families and life-long friends. Its most important tenet is that an infant needs to develop a relationship with at least one primary caregiver for social and emotional development to occur normally, and that further relationships build on the patterns developed in the first relationships. Attachment theory is an interdisciplinary study encompassing the fields of <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychological">psychological</a>, <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Evolution">evolutionary</a>, and <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ethology">ethological</a> theory. It developed as a result of the experiences of child care professionals during World War II in England in caring for the many thousands of small children temporarily separated from their parents or orphaned. The theory was formulated by <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychiatry">psychiatrist</a> and <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Psychoanalysis">psychoanalyst</a> <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/John_Bowlby">John Bowlby</a>.<sup><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_theory#cite_note-Cassidy-0">[1]</a></sup></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><b>Infants become attached to adults who are sensitive and responsive in <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Social_interaction">social interactions</a> with them</b>, and who remain as consistent caregivers for some months during the period from about six months to two years of age. When an infant begins to crawl and walk they begin to use attachment figures (familiar people) as a secure base to explore from and return to. <b>Parental responses lead to the development of patterns of attachment; these, in turn, lead to internal working models which will guide the individual's perceptions, emotions, thoughts and expectations in later relationships.<sup><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_theory#cite_note-Bretherton.2FMul-1">[2]</a></sup> Separation <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anxiety">anxiety</a> or grief following the loss of an attachment figure is considered to be a normal and <a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Adaption">adaptive</a> response for an attached infant.</b> These behaviours may have evolved because they increase the probability of survival of the child.<sup><a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Attachment_theory#cite_note-2">[3]</a></sup></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><b>Ezzo wants to assure you that</b> therefore the best foundation you are to lay for your child is that others will “govern” you and that friendship with those closest to you is just something to aspire for in the distant future. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><b>Ezzo wants you to believe </b>that to lay a foundation for your child which would have the child feel that you are their friend and that they can interact with others in a way which will lead to a response from others is bad.</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;"><b>God says that the way we train our kids up will not be departed from.</b> As you continue to investigate Ezzo’s book, you must ask yourself how “wise” it truly is about babies. And, how the things done today with your baby will manifest when that child is an adult. </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">Ezzo’s summary of Chapter 1 on page 27 says we need to “safeguard against child-centered parenting”. But, you have to remember that this is a term that Ezzo has made up, and seems to be defined as “responsive” parenting, which, as science shows, is necessary for healthy human attachment to occur. <b>For Ezzo to “mock” responsive parenting and to warn readers to “safeguard against” it really should be a red flag that Gary Ezzo does not know what he is talking about. He does not understand human biology, or child development.</b></span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">As a parent investigating what is the right way to raise your child, you must realize that your choices are not two: “Ezzo’s way” or this dreaded, “Child-centered parenting”. There are four basic ways for you to raise your child and if you are a Christian the truth is on your heart and built into your biology and will actually flow naturally if you respond to the biology God created you with. God has given you all that you need to be able to raise your child, “God’s Way”. It is difficult to do in a world where old-wives have so much advice for us and our culture has developed so many things that are accepted as the way things are, but, if you are sincere in wanting to raise your children the “right” way, you will find the answer. </span></div>
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2. How might God have designed a baby to get those needs met? How might God have designed parents to be able to identify and meet those needs?</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">3. What emotional disability does responding to a person according to their expressed needs produce?</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">4. What emotional disability does ignoring a person’s expressed needs possibly produce?</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">5. How does being controlled and having desires ignored effect people?</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">6. What are the possible effects of expressing respect toward your child? How might a child feel to be treated as though their opinions, beliefs, preferences matter to their parent? </span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">7. Do all human beings have preferences that are individual?</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">8. If a child had a preference against the flavor of bananas and really didn’t like to eat them and they expressed that to mom and dad how would it make the child feel if mom and dad cared and tried to find something for them to eat that they liked? How might the child feel if their mom and dad did not care that they really didn’t like bananas and made them eat them anyway. What would either of those options tell a child about the validity of their feelings/opinions/preferences?</span></div>
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<span style="font-size: large;">9. If a child disliked eating bananas, and their parents made changes to feed them something they liked, how might this affect how the child sees the parents? What would this teach by example to the child about love and respect?</span></div>
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